The path is long, patience is a must

We are deep in it. 80+ days deep into our experience of a global pandemic. Deep into the most recent uptick in our collective awareness of systemic racism – not only police brutality, but also thought and action-policing of black outrage and disproportionate COVID sickness and fatalities. All the while working with ourselves, our relationships […]

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Be an imperfect meditator

It’s been about 75 days (plus, for many of us) of sheltering in place to varying degrees. One of the things that has gotten me through (besides the purchase of two beautiful caftans) has been a morning meditation practice, these days offered via Instagram live at 9 am eastern. . I’ve been reading from one […]

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How to keep your Intuitive Eating practice fresh

You gotta hand it to ’em. Even though diets suck on too many levels to list, they do offer a blissful honeymoon phase full of fantasy and promises (however empty). Images of what your life will look like at that fictional future point at which you finally fit into the culture’s narrow standard of what […]

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In Intuitive Eating, obstacles are teachers

When you’re dieting, any challenge that pops up is meant to be whacked like a carnival mole. Obstacles in this sense are all about overcoming, overriding, vanquishing, and emerging victorious. This seems ok, until it isn’t. Once we hit an obstacle that truly challenges us – and admittedly, many of us are in a diminished […]

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The truth about discipline

In our diet culture, the word discipline has taken on a particular meaning – one of militant, self-denying, aggression. . In the Buddhist sense, however, the word discipline has a completely different connotation. It is not about overriding our desires or rigidly applying rules despite changing conditions. . True discipline is about coming back to […]

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Sometimes generosity is about receiving, not giving

Traditionally we think about generosity as giving to others – material goods, services, help, kindness. But I would argue that as other-oriented as we may be, sometimes true generosity looks like accepting from others. Think of the joy you receive when you give to others. When that person realizes that you have considered their feelings […]

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Everything we experience is a combination of our physiology and our psychology

When I work with clients, I usually find myself drawing two circles in the air with my index finders – one representing our physiology or biology, the other representing our psychology. Then I move my hands together to indicate that these two circles are more overlapping than not. This is how it is for us, […]

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Ultimately, this is about being yourself

Intuitive Eating and mindfulness have a lot in common: trusting in your own body, self, and judgment; living your life according to internal (rather than external) drivers; being in the moment and constantly referencing yourself and your environment to take the next right step. Ultimately, both Intuitive Eating and mindfulness are about being yourself – […]

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How resisting discomfort robs us of joy

This simple truth never fails to provide perspective: It is completely normal and human to prefer pleasure over suffering; it is also completely normal for grasping onto pleasure to increase our suffering. What does this mean? For evolutionary reasons, our human minds and bodies prefer things that feel good to things that feel bad. Doesn’t […]

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